One High-Stakes Decision Changes Everything | Ep 992
In a Nutshell
One decision can reshape an entire life, yet most people hand their power to outside circumstances, other people, or their own self-worth instead of owning the choice. To regain that power—whether for yourself or a prospect—you must first confirm they genuinely want the goal and believe the solution works, works for them, and will be supported. Then peel back the three layers of blame (circumstances → others → self) by exposing the irrational distortions that keep them stuck, so the decision is theirs, certain, and aligned with the outcome they actually want.
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I can drink a bottle of Jack, get in the car. I can change everything with one decision, right? I can make a step to invest in something. I can buy something. I can invest in myself. I can have a terrible conversation with Leila. I can have an amazing conversation with Laya. But just one decision. And that's always given me power. But the thing is is that instead of changing our lives, we blame. And when I say blame, I want you to think give power to sources outside of our control. And this is what you and this is what your prospects and your customers are doing. And this is why so many people are weak and powerless.
We're going to do a fun activity today because I want you to be involved so you can learn it. And we're going to do this so that one you can help decisions to help yourself with whatever decisions you're facing. Two, you can use these frameworks to help prospects help themselves. And then three, become more powerful.
Visualize the decision that you need to make. This is a statement from Confucius: I hear and I forget. I see and I remember. I do and I understand. The goal isn't to take screenshots of every picture of every slide. When you do that and you kind of mean this is why I do it. I take pictures so that I don't have to remember it. But I don't want you to remember it. I want you to understand it. If you understand it, you won't have to go back to your notes because let's be real, half the time you're not even going to open these notes up again.
What we're going to do is not going to be some scripts that you have to understand, but the logic behind the arguments that people will give you as to why they are not choosing to become more powerful. And if you can unlock that, you people will feel more powerful talking to you and they will want to buy from you because of the feeling they have. And so that's when you're using logic to create an emotion.
Anyone here presented with a decision last 24 hours? Yes. Great. Fantastic. So, who thinks the a decision could change your life for the better? Great. For the worse, who knows? All right, let's go.
Here's my goal. I want to show you as though you were prospect how to think through a decision and help others using these frameworks, right? What you want, what you don't want. Maximize the left, minimize the right. So, here's what this has translated to. If you decided to buy the offer, you feel more certain about your decision. You decided not to buy the offer. You feel certain about the decision. And if you're undecided, you make a decision. And you feel good that it's the one that has the highest likelihood of you getting you closer to where you want to go.
This is what we have to walk through with our prospects. When you're looking at them, you have to be like, I don't want you to buy. I want you to decide for you, not for me. I'll be the same either way. Right? You're like, I'm going to be ripped in shape. It's not going to change me, right? Like that's not going to change. But like it will change for you, right?
Helping someone make a decision to help themselves does not mean buying from you. That's a reiteration. You have to keep their goals at the center of the decision. And you should be happy. I mean this because if you can shift this truly if you can be happy when someone decides to own the power and not work with you, then the pressure around sales disappears. It evaporates. There's no stake. The stake is did I help them? And that means that you can win every sale because you change the metric you're measuring yourself by. That's the superpower. Like, and that's where you do make the most sales because you don't care about the sale because you care about the person. And the people pay the people who pay the most attention. That's why I call it paying attention. They pay for it. They pay for you to pay attention rather than talking about yourself, right? Because they don't care about you because they're thinking about a hundred other things. And this is why most importantly make high stakes decisions to help your prospects in order to best serve them.
The difference between obstacles and objections. Obstacle is a thing that blocks one's way or prevents or hinders progress. When you disagree with them, that is an obstacle. This happens before you solicit the sale. Someone says some stuff before we even get to the sale. That's an obstacle. A simple example I hear all the time. Hey, why'd you hop on the call today? Hey, why'd you walk in the gym today? Whatever it is, right? Them, I just wanted to find out a little bit more about the program. First 10 seconds obstacle. You're not here to find out more about the program. You're here cuz you're fat, but they got to say it. So, you're like, Oh, so you finding out like, do you do this all the time? Do you go to lots of different programs to find out information or is there a problem you're trying to solve? They're like, Oh, well, you know, I'm trying to lose weight. Like, Oh, got it. So, you're not just hopping on 100 calls a day. Cuz I was like, That would be a very weird existence, right? You just hop on for information all day. Haha, great. Fantastic. I've had this conversation before, right? So, it's an obstacle, right? And the thing is, it's easy confront and destroy obstacles before you ask for the sale.
Once you've asked for the sale, you switch to objections. Objections is when they disagree with you. So, it's much easier to be on the other side disagreeing and helping them break their beliefs before the stake has been presented after after the after you're in the red zone. It's all closing. It's all objection overcomes, right? Example of that. It's like, I don't want to buy right now. AND YOU'RE LIKE, TOTALLY UNDERSTAND. What are the main criteria you're thinking through? Which is always funny cuz people are like, I need to think about it. I've never had someone like leave because they need to think about it. I'm like, cool. What are you thinking about? And they're like, oh, I'm still here, right?
Learning how to talk through these high stakes decisions with yourself or others is the purpose of presentation and as a result you'll become more powerful.
Before diving into each of these arguments I have to make this one statement is that the person must really want the goal and believe three things. One the product will get them the goal, the way they want to get there. And I learned that second half the hard way because we found out in gym launch that people would say no sometimes to buying memberships, right? or buying challenges or whatever. But when we offered them the ability to come back the next day, help them for free, we'd sell them $400 of supplements, and they just said no to a $100 down service thing. I'm like, what the It's because they want to lose weight, but they want to lose weight their way. And so that's when I started learning like, oh, not only do we have to make sure that they want the goal and they believe that the product's going to get them there, it has to get them there the way they want to get there. This gives you ammo for the questions that you're going to ask.
The second thing is that you and others will support them. Like, are you telling me the truth? Is this really what's going to happen? Will other people around me support this decision? And the third is that it will work for them and not just everyone else. Sure, I've seen the people who step on the stage, but they're different than me. I'm a snowflake. I have metabolic thyroid ketosis, right? whatever I have zero influence er whatever you know what I mean like I have no following is itis right whatever it is right whatever stuff you tell yourself and what you have to do in the situation is you have to provide proof so that it'd be more unreasonable not to believe than to believe and this is a logical close this is not a this is not an emotional close this is when you look at someone and say how many people would you need to see for it to be more unreasonable for you not to believe than to believe at what point is it 10 is it 50. Well, here's a thousand. Tell me when to stop.
That's not the real reason. And then you can confront the real stuff. Otherwise, if they're not sure of those things, if they don't actually want to lose weight, if you don't actually want to make money doing online fitness, then it doesn't matter what Jason says. You don't want to make money doing online fitness, then you're not going to buy, right? If you do want to make money doing online fitness, then you go down you go down the train the train tracks. Again, this is why you expect no at first because if people could make the decision, they would have already made it.
Richard Feynman, besides Charlie, one of my favorite thinkers of all time, he was like the second guy on the atom bomb. Sounds negative. Brilliant teacher. He's known for this. Understand, don't memorize. Learn principles, not formulas. And that's what the rest of this presentation is about is the principles behind overcoming these distortions that people have. And so, this is me asking you for your own sake. Don't take pictures of the slides. It's because all the stuff's going to be in the recordings, but you are here now. So, be here now so you can understand it.
There are three sources. This was a huge breakthrough for me. So, I'm going to share it with you. The first time shared a live. There are three sources that we cast our power to. And it took me a very long time to get through this because I looked at Grant and he had his, you know, you got stall, decision maker, money. Then you talk to Barry who owns Sage. She's like, You got time, fit, money, fear, shame, right? Those are hers. And then Jordan Belfort's got his. And so everybody's got like these are the only overcomes, right? I was like, There has to be an actual truth here. Like there has to be something that's true that's unquestioned. And so trying to figuring this out, I actually went back to Dr. Albert Ellis. Anybody who knew who he is? No one. Great. Um, who here knows what cognitive behavioral therapy is? CBT. He invented it. smart dude. And so what he noticed is that he originally had 11 distortions of reality. Then he dropped it to nine, then a seven, and then he gave him a three. And the three stuck. And the three are what I'm about to share with you.
And you're like, why is he talking about this about sales? Because the objections that people offer you where they cast their power to are distortions of reality. They are the things we use to upset ourselves. These are the three circumstances. And this is the irrational statement that people make. I must get what I want when I want it. I must not get what I don't want. If I don't get what I want, I can't stand it. That's when people blame their emotional disturbances on emotional disturbances on circumstances.
Two, others. Other people must treat me fairly and kindly. And if they don't, they are no good and deserve to be condemned and punished. It's like your animal brain, right? Three, self. I must do well or else I am no good. These are the three core distortions that upset people. This is like mental illness, right? And so I'm not saying anyone has mental illness if they don't agree with you. It's more so that these are distortions that are not real. And if you can understand, not memorize, if you can understand this, then you can have these high stakes conversations understanding exactly which distortion they are suffering from. And I'll show you how to overcome them.
And so I like to consider like the onion of blame. People start, this is like one of the bigger breakthroughs I had. They start with the outside. They blame circumstances, time, money, other stuff And then the step next to that, they start to blame other people, my spouse, my kids, my employees. And then finally, they say like, It's me. It's my fault. And so, you might have to overcome multiple layers as you peel back. And based on the objection they give you, you can know where you're at. You can know how close you are. If someone just says, I have to think about that. You're like, Great. I'm talking to the person who's in power and the decision maker and I just need to get them to say yes. If they're like, I don't have, they're casting the power away. And some of you guys are probably casting your power away on decisions you need to make, which is why I'm making this presentation.
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