Stop Seeking Their Approval If You Don’t Want Their Life - Alex Hormozi
In a Nutshell
To succeed, ignore opinions from people whose lives you don't want—most are average and their approval signals you're staying average. The path to exceptional results requires enduring a "lonely chapter" of rejection and doubt while pursuing goals others can't see or value. True progress often means abandoning local maximums and continuing upward even when everyone around you questions why you're working so hard.
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Don't listen to other people's opinions. Most people are fat, poor pansies and don't listen to them when they try to deter you from whatever it takes to succeed. The average person will always try to keep you average. It makes sense that if you want to be extraordinary, you will do things that an ordinary person would see as extra.
A lot of people want to see you fail because it justifies the risk that they chose not to take. We always have to think about listening to the people who are closest to our goals, not closest to us.
We yearn for the approval of many people who don't have lives that we want. If they have a specific life, then it means that is what they think is valuable. If we don't want what they have, then why would we value their weight on our decisions?
People have a mold that is their life. When your life no longer fits their mold, they state the obvious: you are living your life against their preferences. We somehow feel like that needs to change.
When we're younger and growing up, we can't leave. We do need to live our life according to our parents' preferences, our teachers' preferences, our classmates' preferences, our principal's preferences. But when you get older, you have to break the mold and decide what mold you want. In so doing, you will be against their preferences.
If the vast majority of people have a life that you don't want, then you're going to do things that the vast majority of people don't agree with.
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