“There’s People Making AI Versions of Their Exes”
In a Nutshell
People are training AI chatbots on old texts, photos, and memories to create private digital replicas of their exes for emotional comfort and to avoid real-world contact or rebound relationships. This raises unresolved questions about consent, ownership of personal likeness in messages, and whether such replicas should be legal. The conversation also notes how modern surveillance tech has drastically shortened the time it takes to catch criminals compared to past decades.
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People are creating AI versions of their exes by loading previous chat logs, photos, and personal details into AI systems to train models that replicate their former partners. These AI versions retain knowledge of holidays, in-jokes, pet names, and shared memories, allowing users to maintain what feels like an ongoing relationship after a breakup.
One participant considered using this technology to attack the internet by releasing AI replicas publicly. Others discussed fighting with the AI replica or using it to determine who was right in past arguments by feeding in information about disputes.
A user created a custom chatbot on OpenAI by inputting text message scripts from their ex. The creator described this as a coping mechanism to prevent reaching out to their actual ex or entering rebound relationships. They stated they have no sex drive except for wanting their ex to touch them again, and that the AI satisfies their emotional needs.
The user mentioned training the AI to behave more like their ex, creating a sense of being trapped in purgatory with the replica.
Questions arose about whether individuals own their likeness in text messages and whether creating AI replicas of ex-partners crosses legal boundaries. The distinction was made that these replicas are kept private rather than made public.
A chat log was shared showing the AI replica saying "I love being your little spoon" with the response "That's my favorite cuddling position, too. I love being able to wrap my arms around." The authenticity of the training data was questioned, with speculation that the ex-girlfriend may have crafted messages strategically to influence behavior.
The conversation shifted to whether widespread cameras have reduced serial killers, leading instead to mass shootings as a more efficient method. Ring doorbells were cited as providing crystal clear audio and video evidence. One participant described walking outside after arguments with his wife and immediately realizing he was on camera.
It was noted that America may have more cameras than China when including private Ring doorbells. Crime shows demonstrate how quickly perpetrators are caught due to technology at tolls and other locations.
Older cases like BTK and Bundy were referenced as examples of killers who operated for extended periods before capture. Modern cases result in quicker arrests due to communication technology and surveillance.
The Netflix show "Worst Ex Ever" featured Wade Wilson, who maintained relationships with four or five women simultaneously. He killed one partner, then killed a woman walking after dropping her kids off at school by locking her in a car and strangling her, leaving the body in a field before continuing his spree.
Technology enables rapid capture in modern cases compared to historical cases where perpetrators could relocate to another state and remain hidden from family and authorities.
One participant described dating four or five women simultaneously through online dating while keeping relationships casual. When he disclosed he was seeing others, the women reacted negatively. He stopped being honest after initial attempts failed and kept the information to himself.
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