Why Nobody is Having Sex Anymore (& why it matters) - Dr Debra Soh
In a Nutshell
Young people, especially men under 30, are experiencing a "sex recession" with 1 in 3 reporting no sex in the past year, driven by porn, AI companions, social media distortions (e.g., 3 sixes rule, looksmaxing), birth control blunting ovulation cues, mental health crises, and hypergamy imbalances exacerbated by DEI policies sidelining men. These solo alternatives sedate mating drives, shrink the dating pool, and threaten reproduction, as fertility windows close amid rising childlessness (80% of childless women involuntary). Solutions include ditching apps/porn for real-life flirting, prioritizing sexual novelty in relationships, ending adversarial gender narratives, and addressing root causes like endocrine disruptors and cultural feminization of men.
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People having less sex is a big deal, especially for young men in their sexual prime. It's frustrating and affects connection, emotional intimacy, and community. Sex recession refers to young people, particularly millennials and Gen Z, having less sex than previous generations. Initially skeptical, data confirms one in three men and one in five women have not had sex in the past 12 months. Book explores what replaces sex and future implications.
Modern outlets include porn, mutual masturbation, OnlyFans, AI companions—each with dedicated book chapters. Tested them personally, reviewed scientific research, evolutionary biology, and psychology explaining allure and dangers distracting from real sex.
Everyone has less sex: married, in relationships, single; Eastern, Western, developed countries; all age cohorts, especially young people. Adolescents show lower rates of partnered sex (intercourse, anal, oral, partner masturbation) and solo masturbation. Not just redistribution to solo or machine sex—overall sexual activity pie has shrunk.
Technology like dolls, robots with AI may become preferable to real sex, more popular than anticipated, potentially dangerous.
Documented for 30 years, tapered in 1990s, prominent last 20 years. COVID worsened it, but predated. Internet, smartphones, social media contribute—supposed to connect but divide politically, between men/women, subcultures. Political hatred between sexes hinders relationships/dating.
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