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Women Are Just As “Porn-Brained” As Men

Chris WilliamsonApril 24, 20268m

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Hookup Culture Messaging vs Reality0:00 Dual Messaging from Femosphere and Manosphere3:00 Porn's Impact on Expectations and Fear3:31 Progressive Reaction6:31 Sponsor: Momentous Fiber Plus7:01

In a Nutshell

Hookup culture messaging from media like Teen Vogue and Call Her Daddy promotes casual sex as empowering for women, yet Gen Z is hypersexualized but having less sex due to terrifying porn exposure (often accidental from age 6-8 via social media), creating fear, unrealistic expectations, and "porn-brained" self-objectification. Both femosphere and manosphere push defensive bravado against vulnerability, contributing to a sex recession despite dual paradoxes: porn as both meaningless transaction and traumatic horror. The book critiques unchecked porn without progressive caveats, highlighting its under-discussed damage to young women akin to men.

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Book covers 2010 to now, changes culturally and technologically. Examples: Teen Vogue teaching teenagers anal sex tips and hookup culture. Call Her Daddy podcast episodes in late 2010s promote sleeping around as good, empowering, healthy for young girls. Alex Cooper now happily engaged. Statistics show not having more sex despite messaging. Paradox between pushed hookup culture and lack of explosion in it. Many paradoxes in book between messaging and outcomes. Gen Z hypersexualized but having less sex; possibly linked.

Listening to Call Her Daddy, sex sounded horrifying and scary. Not advertising sex positively. On podcast: if you're a 4 or 5 out of 10, learn sex tips to make up for it. Stereotypically worst masculine banter from women. Guest like from manosphere: if your butt is [incomplete], better learn to cook. Guest Milf Hunter (guy who slept with older women) gave horrifying advice. At end, shouts "women don't care about you sorry men don't care about you." Hosts Alex Cooper and other: "I hope you girls are listening and even if you're married you're not safe he still wants to cheat on you." Most listened to podcast by women. Contributes to sex recession.

Awful messaging from feminist influences (femosphere, now covered by New Statesman) and manosphere. Both say investing in opposite sex or being vulnerable gets you hurt; put on defense mechanism bravado. Exact same messaging on both sides.

Porn terrified young women, exposed before relationships. Forum of Gen Z adults: first exposure at 8, 6 years old, accidentally on platforms, before dating context. Impact on young women discussed less than on men. Constant exposure on social media. Statistics: accidental exposure, not seeking on Pornhub but on Twitter or Instagram, leading to addiction. Creates fear around sex, crazy expectations. Porn-brained women: way they speak about themselves heartbreaking, straight out of porn site, viewing self as object or product (e.g., Call Her Daddy guests).

Porn both meaningless transactional (do freely with whoever, whenever) and root of most traumatic thing if done incorrectly.

Doesn't understand consistent defense of porn from progressives. Book controversial: no caveats or disclaimers on porn (tired of books that caveat). No "porn empowers women, disadvantaged have iPhone and dildo to make money." Same approach for mental health industry: brief acknowledgement some medication/therapy helps/saves lives, then skeptical side/dangers. Point of book: things not grown up hearing, countering books on benefits of mental health awareness, opening up, medication.

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