A Woman Tried To Find Her Husband On X (it went badly)
In a Nutshell
Brooke LeBlanc's viral tweet seeking a high-earning, childless man aged 35-42 with "provider mentality" and substantial wealth backfired spectacularly, exposing unrealistic dating standards. The discussion reveals a fundamental gender mismatch: wealthy women often demand equal-or-higher status partners while men prioritize beauty, supportiveness, and compatibility over income. This reflects broader patterns where successful women display wealth through luxury items like Birkin bags, while men seek partners who enhance their lives rather than match their economic status.
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A tech executive named Brooke LeBlanc posted on Twitter (now X) stating: "Who wants to spend the rest of my life with me?" She then listed her dating requirements and asked the platform to "show me your magic." The post generated significant backlash, leading her to delete her Twitter account.
The inviolable conditions specified were:
- Age range: 35 to 42
- Healthy, masculine, intelligent, humorous, cheerful
- Provider and protector mentality
- Hardworking even beyond economic level (having enough money to last without working, yet still working)
- Kind, generous, thoughtful
- No children yet but determined to have children
- On the road to recovery
- History of being in deep relationships
- Former therapist
- Reads books, attends retreats
- Can meet anywhere but won't date unless living in the same city
- Fit and moderate, conscious about health
- Preferably no previous marriages or engagements
- Works in tech sector, willing to take risks
- Balances career with personal life
The phrase "hardworking even beyond the economic level" was interpreted to mean having sufficient financial resources to not need to work, yet continuing to work. The discussion explored what financial threshold would qualify, noting it depends on the city and lifestyle. One calculation suggested approximately $50,000 per million dollars invested. The lifestyle implications of marriage and children were considered, along with vacation homes and living standards.
Jason Calacanis, host of the "All In" podcast, was described as the least wealthy of the podcast hosts on paper and labeled as "asset light" compared to other billionaires. "Economic and asset light" was characterized as the most diplomatic way of describing someone as poor.
The difference between "truly wanting children" versus "just wanting children" was discussed, with certainty level being the distinguishing factor. One type of man might think about having children someday, while another would have a definite timeline of three to five years.
The framing of relationships in business terms was criticized, particularly the phrase "Who wants to co-found my life?" A cultural observation was made about the mixing of yoga terminology and business terminology in New York, creating a hybrid language that includes terms like "helicopter view," "paradigm shift," "energy," "vibes," "align the aura," "EOB" (compared to EBITDA), and "guru or mantra."
The question was posed about how very successful and wealthy women in their forties and fifties display their wealth compared to men. Examples included Nancy Meyers-style kitchens, Lacanche ovens, extensive travel, luxury items, and specifically Birkin bags costing $20,000 to $30,000 each. Cars, houses, and dogs were mentioned as typical luxury purchases. Men were noted to collect watches and wine collections worth millions of dollars.
The internet was observed to frequently tell women they are "queens," "bosses," and "boss babes" who "deserve the best," while men receive messages like "Hey bro, shut up" and are told they deserve "a woman" rather than "a queen." Prenuptial agreement observations revealed that women typically marry someone of equal or higher economic status, while men generally do not marry someone from a lower class.
When asked what three things most men look for in a woman for a deep relationship, "good earner" was stated as never making the top ten list. Instead, typical male preferences included beauty, thoughtfulness, being good with kids, and being supportive. Being good in bed was also mentioned as a consideration.
A grandfather's relationship advice was quoted: "Marry someone rich."
Two categories of people who inherit wealth were identified:
- Those who become extraordinary, speaking five languages, attending university, earning master's degrees, and engaging in humanitarian work like digging wells in Sudan
- Those who become addicted to opium, complete failures who "start in the third stage feeling as if they have hit a double"
An observation was made that when there is a very successful older sibling, the younger sibling may develop "acquired helplessness," thinking they will never be as good, leading them to make mistakes and have fun instead of striving for achievement.
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