What if men stopped fearing feminine energy?

Shame Around Masculine and Feminine Language00:00

There's shame attached to discussing masculine and feminine energy. It's acceptable to say attuned, connected, dropped in, aware, or use Wilbarian language like transcending and including as a guy—that aligns with Joe's vulnerability definition and feels strong. But embracing feminine energy provokes strong rejection.

Embracing Irrationality as Feminine00:30

Irrationality is a key feminine trait men criticize in wives and girlfriends. Men project their own irrationality onto women. Pursuing endless money and status past a certain point is hyper-irrational—you've proven it doesn't bring happiness, yet you continue. That's deeply irrational.

Feminine Qualities Men Avoid01:00

Feminine qualities include feminine, irrational, singing, dancing, flowing, enjoying one's body. In sexual relationships, men often vicariously participate in their partner's greater pleasure capacity without fully experiencing full-body pleasure themselves.

Sex as a Business Transaction01:30

Many guys treat sex as a business to successfully exit—following a sequence of steps like building and exiting a business, with blueprints and tricks. Even turning video game Hades 2 into an optimized business, sex becomes a loving presence turned into build-and-exit.

People-Pleasing and Shadow Resentments02:30

Early Charisma and Command and early Charlie were driven by deep people-pleasing, especially toward women—shaping habits, exercise routine for female attention. In sex, focusing on making the other person happy leads to exhaustion: 'I'm tired of trying to make this other person happy.' This creates shadow frustrations, resentments without realization. Obsession with meaning blocks access to pleasure.